Silence is a great gift at times, for it is not the words spoken, but the presence of the LOVE that stands next to you.

 ~ "When you love someone, the best thing you can offer is your presence. How can you love if you are not there?" ~

 Author:  Aaron Bernard




Can we define love?

Love through the eyes of a man for a woman.  In the never ending quest for truth and understanding of life, when discovering such truth, I, as man, am obligated to put such truth in harmony with my character.

To love the woman of my life!!!!!

To love her is…

  • to serve her.
  • to give of one’s self for her.
  • to empty one’s self of all selfishness for her.
  • to make her equal with you, not out of necessity, but out of wanting too.
  • to give her strength and courage.
  • to give her honor and respect.
  • to have reverence to her, for her, and around her.
  • to give her dreams.
  • to give her a sense of being wanted and desired.
  • to make her feel secure and protected.
  • to make her feel important, that she has your most undivided attention.
  • to do the right and honorable, to her, for her, and about her.
  • not an emotion but an action, an action of ones character towards her.
  • not to die for her, but to live for her.

To live for her truly shows your love, dying is easy.  To live your life in a manner that demonstrates your love will be the most challenging endeavors in a man’s life.  You are obligated, without a second thought to give up your life, you are required to give up that selfish hearth that resides within you, it is imperative that you give up your life in order to give her not only the necessities of life, but to give to her the little things, like attention, safety, respect, for the little things in life are what makes life so big, it make her life worth so much more.  You must be willing to forfeit the deepest desires of your dreams and ambitions.  You must always do the right and honorable, no matter what the cost is to your pride.  It is better to humble ones self and lose your pride then to lose the one you love.  You will humble yourself before her; you will give to her all of your heart.  To live for her is to protect her, not only from the world, but from yourself.  You will not belittle her, nor make her feel unloved, unwanted, not beautiful, for she is the most stunning and the most remarkable creature on the face of this planet, there is no other like her. There is no other that will captivate your heart like she will.  When in your presence, she will feel the love that proceed from your action, and that she does not feel but knows, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that she will be safe, that she is essential, that she is the most important factor of your life, that she is honored, but most of all, she is loved, loved with an unconditional love, and this will not come from the words that proceed from your lips but from the action that will proceed from you character (your heart).  You will make her equal with you, you will put her on your pedestal that you have made for her, you will be her foundation, where she can always stand on, you will be her wings, so she can fly, you will be her pillar, so she can stand strong.  You will carry her not with words, but with action.

But most of all, you will not do this because you have to, nor will you do this because you feel obligated, nor will you do this because you want her to love you!  You will do this for the mere fact that your character demands it from you, for there is no real reason for you to do such an act.  For you love her, because…she exists!

Author:  Aaron Bernard



What a man desires in a woman:

A man longs for a woman with eyes of beauty.  Eyes of a righteous convictions, that will pierce his heart of steel, like a laser in the night.  Eyes of tenderness that will melt his heart of stone like wax in a fire.  Eyes that will show him that she loves him, for who he is, and who he wants to be, and not for who he was.  Eyes that will convict him of his sins without a word being spoken, allowing him to humble himself before God and her.  Eyes of a fiery passion, a passion fierce with desire and hunger for him.  Eyes of such beauty a man desires.

A man yearns for a woman with ears of attentiveness.  Ears that will listen to his silly ideas.  Ears that will listen to when he is afraid, sad, in fury, and when he is happy.  Ears that will listen to his pleads to God, as he wrestle with Him in the blackness of his heart, fighting against the flesh and the Spirit; she takes action and prays for his very soul.  Ears that will listen to his battle cries, as he daily comes before God, to submit to His love, to take on the battles of the new day, to learn, to not only love God, but to learn to love her with all his soul.  Ears that will listen to his beating heart and know that he loves her and that he will continual to learn, to love her.  Ears that will listen to the words of passion and desire that he has for her, as he whisper them into her soft and tender ears.  Such ears a man desires.

A man hungers for a woman with soft and tender lips.  Lips that will kiss his soul.  Lips that will kiss the tender words that will tame the rage and fury that burns in his heart.  Lips that will kiss the words of kindness that will rid the hatred that consumes his soul.  Lips that will kiss the truth, delicately to his heart, that will bring him to his knees.  Lips that will kiss the tears that flow from his eyes.  Lips that will kiss the pain that engulfs the very fabric of his being.  Lips that will kiss him with such passion, that he will hunger for her and her only.  Such lips a man desires.

A man craves for a woman with hands of tenderness yet with strength.  Hands that will cover his face when he is shamed.  Hands that will embrace him when he is scared.  Hands that will hold him when he is weak.  Hands that will pick him up when he falls.  Hands that will hold the word of God to his accountability.  Hands that will caress his weary soul.  Hands that will touch the deepest most sacred parts of his heart.  Hands that will work with him and not against him.  Hands that will embrace his heart and hold it near to her.  Hands that will pat him on the back, when he has done well.  Hands that will caress his flesh with a burning passion and lust that he has never felt before.  Such hands a man desires.

A man desires a woman with strong feet.  Feet that what will stand firm on the word of God.  Feet that will stand with him and by him in all that he does and trusts in God to lead him in the right path.  Feet that will stand naked with him, before God and be held accountable for all that he has done, good or bad.  Feet that will walk down the path of righteousness when he fails to.  Feet that will carry his heart to the ends of the universe.  Such feet a man desires.

To the reader; these thoughts are of my own reflection of my past and present and are not necessarily the thoughts or desires of all men.  After many years, these are the desires of which my soul seeks and which only my own soul can produce.  Through the last 25 plus years of my life, I have been through a great trial, and the road that I have walked down has been a turbulent one.  At the time, I did not know how to love the woman that I had in my life, and as a result, she did not know how to love me.  God gave me a responsibility and I failed Him.  What a man desires in a woman is an extension of what he is willing to give her, its an extension of his character.  A woman can only give to a man what he is willing to give to her.  I have learned a great deal in what it takes to love a woman and I will continue to learn as I allow Christ to take my heart and mold it to what He desires.  In order to give all of my heart, mind, and soul to the next woman in my life, I must first give my heart (my life) to God.  A woman, is a gift from God, a priceless gem, a jewel of unsurpassed beauty and value, she is what will make a man whole.  As God has said that we are the apple of His eye, woman is the apple of our eye, she is the center piece of our hearts.  We are to love her, with a love that comes from God and not from within ourselves.  God created woman from the side of man; He did so, so I could make her equal with me.  A man is only half a man, with a woman of such character a man is made whole.  Just like the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit make up the whole God Head, Christ + man + woman = one whole man.

author:  aaron bernard